Friday, April 17, 2009

give NO life

As we sat in the booth at Cheddar's & I sipped my THIRD texas frozen strawberry margarita bowl (with SUGAR around the rim of the glass) me & my BFF Dee stumbled onto the topic of kids:

Why they're a nice idea
Why we don't NEED them
Why I WOULD help a friend terminate a pregnancy
& why he is so ANTI-abortion

His main argument being, "they had no business layin up & makin the baby...our mother's didn't get rid of us...i can understand rape victims, they had no choice...every human being conceived, deserves a chance..."

I am 24 going on 25, "& I still look good[1]," & I spent AT LEAST 10 YEARS of my young adulthood resenting my father. I blamed him for everything I thought was wrong with me: my femininity because he wasn't around to masculinate me; my homosexuality because he was a former bisexual, so he must have passed me the gay gene..."I cursed the day he was born[2]!"

My mother, I couldn't STAND for close to 15 years: for conceiving me at the age of 14 & being too spoiled & immature to woMAN up; for leaving the burden of rearing me to my grandmother...for not being able to accept me coming out of the closet at the age of 13.

It took close to 20 years of life, just to begin to accept my fucked up ass issues (regardless of my parents') as MY fucked up issues. But it only took me to the FIRST quarter to get in the game...do you have any idea how many muthafuckas don't get off the bench until halftime? How many human beings are SO FUCKED UP in the head because they're parents & grandparents were REALLY FUCKED UP in the head & they don't even begin to UNDERSTAND, until their life is half over? Not even counting the ones who die STILL not realizing the damn point...

Now I'm not knockin Dee for his opinion & he wasn't knockin me for mine. But everytime I stop & look around to analyze & process headline news, sometimes it seems like just the thought of bringing kids into this world...they never even HAVE a chance.


REFERENCES

Savannah(Whitney Houston)-Waiting to Exhale; 1995
Charlotte(Kristin Davis)-Sex in the City - The Movie; 2008

4 comments:

Keisha Kornbread said...

I agree. I never saw the need to procreate. With so many great kids already around, why not adopt. That would help with the population problem, foster child, etc.

I think procreation just to continue a name is selfish and irresponsible. I could go on and on about the subject, but I think I should just stop here.

Q said...

You are so right. I would definitely opt for adoption. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't give Madonna teas, but hell...

ka-os said...
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ka-os said...

I really don't know what I think about abortion; I've never had an opinion or judgement on it (which is extremely rare for me).

On the one hand, I think of it as woman's business - i.e. exclusively the perspective of females and nothing to do with me. On the other hand, I think of all the unwanted kids, the bad parents who should be sterilised...

I do think those people who are going around breeding as a matter of choice are selfish and irresponsible on many different levels... Why don't they do something useful and productive and take care of the poor souls who don't have anybody?

And I don't think Keisha Kornbread should stop, I think she should go on and on, 'cos she's onto something...